As my 40th birthday draws nearer, it’s got me thinking about the future and reflecting on the past.

I know some people make a negative big deal about turning 40, especially women; but I really and truly look forward to it. I have no issues in getting older. First of all it’s a blessing, a milestone and I have a good chunk of life experience under my belt and can now firmly place myself in the “big ooman” category 😂

We all know how much the world worships youth and beauty; but turning 40 does not make anyone less attractive, sexy or desirable. There are other attractive attributes than looks alone like loyalty, reliability, a good sense of humour, discipline, intelligence etc.

I am grateful for my experiences so far. If you allow them, they can help with personal refinement, discovery, understanding and healing. So here’s some of my current thinking:

Beginning’s and Endings: People, things and situations come and go. Its the natural cycle of life. I don’t need to worry, I don’t need to force anything or hold on to anyone to stay in my life. Just make peace with it, move on and make space for new beginning’s.

Facts over Feelings: Emotions are all good until they cloud your judgement. So let’s stick to the facts of the situation. It may hurt, but it is what it is.

Love and Support: I am loved and supported. Be open to where love and support comes from.

It’s ok to change my mind: I know I said I wasn’t interested in marriage between the ages of 20-30whatever but I’m interested in marriage now. I know I accepted some bullshit behaviours in the past but guess what? I ain’t accepting that shit anymore.

Rigidity doesn’t work: For me, It’s about being flexible and making adjustment’s when life requires. And it’s not the end of the world to start over again.

I’m excited about the future…No more coasting and letting fate have its way. More emotional discipline, spiritual navigation, self awareness, creativity, fun and intention. There are unlimited opportunities available, it just boils down to making a choice. I could literally wake up tomorrow and decide to start a career in nursing, decide to take pole-dancing lessons or learn to play an instrument. Whatever feels good to the soul 💜

In a world where most people have a platform voicing their opinions, where society tries to dictate what people should aspire to be, especially women. How they should dress, what makes them wife material, high value etc I am DETERMINED to tune out the noise so I can hear myself clearly. I will be the woman who I want to be. Living life on my own terms. It doesn’t matter that I’m a mother, a sister, friend etc. I am me first. And that questions will always be number one…

Am I happy?

Seeya in the next post!